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Suggestions for Students Attending a Funeral

Suggestions for Students

Attending a Visitation or a Funeral

 

Keep in mind:

Expect to feel nervous when going to a funeral home or a funeral

Go with a friend or ask a parent to accompany you

If this is the first time you’ve seen the parents, simply offer your condolences;

          just say, "I am so sorry about ’s death" (this may open a conversation)

Point out something special to you about the deceased

If the visitation or funeral is open casket, view the body if you want; you do
          not have to

 

Later Involvement:

After the funeral you may chose to continue to visit the parents; they may
          continue to want to see the friends of their deceased child     

Continue to talk about their deceased child from time to time

 

When Visiting Grieving Parents

This information should be helpful to students when interacting with the parents of a deceased friend. Always respect the wishes of grieving parents. These suggestions must fit the parents’ needs and requests, as well as the student’s own comfort level.

First Steps:

In the vast majority of cases the parents find it comforting to see friends of
          their deceased child

If you were a close friend of the deceased and you know the parents, then go
          visit them at their home

If you were a friend but had not met the parents (yet they know who
          you are), you might still visit the home

Other friends might wait until the visitation or funeral

Send the parents a note or card

Communication:

When you visit, do not worry about what to say; your presence is all that
           is needed; if you wish to take a flower or anything meaningful, that’s all right too

Don’t be afraid you will upset the parents by asking or talking about
          the deceased; they are already upset

Just sitting with the parents will most likely fill the silence

Listen, no matter what the topic

If you were a really close friend, the parents might be pleased for you to visit
          the deceased friend’s room (if you are comfortable doing so)

You might ask what you can do for them; ask other relatives what you might
          do to help

Do not try to take away the grieving parent’s pain

Talk about the deceased person (grieving people often like telling stories
          about the deceased, "do you remember the time...")

Offer suggestions only when advice is asked


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