When you visit, do not worry
about what to say; your presence is all that
is
needed; if you wish to take a flower or anything
meaningful, that’s all right too
Don’t be afraid you will upset
the parents by asking or talking about
the
deceased; they are already upset
Just sitting with the parents
will most likely fill the silence
Listen, no matter what the topic
If you were a really close
friend, the parents might be pleased for you to
visit
the deceased friend’s room (if you are
comfortable doing so)
You might ask what you can do
for them; ask other relatives what you might
do
to help
Do not try to take away the
grieving parent’s pain
Talk about the deceased person
(grieving people often like telling stories
about the deceased, "do you remember the
time...")
Offer suggestions only when
advice is asked